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The most rudimentary things, like getting dressed in the morning or putting dishes into the dishwasher, have become an overwhelming challenge. You can’t seem to shake the sadness, or “just get over it,” no matter how hard you try.
My clients come to me with immeasurable pain, a deep sense of sorrow, and a feeling of disconnection, often from more than just the person that died. It seems like the people they need the most, their closest friends and family, pull away and just don’t show up in the ways they need. My clients end up feeling alone just when they need others the most.
The seemingly never-ending pain often leads to thoughts of dying themselves…perhaps through suicide or a desire to just be dead. They can’t imagine living the rest of their lives without their loved one.
Some of my clients have experienced traumatic grief. Traumatic grief is shockingly intense, overwhelms my clients’ ability to cope, and causes them to question who they are and what the world is like.
“Any sudden or unexpected death, violent or disfiguring death, homicide, suicide, or death that follows prolonged suffering can provoke traumatic grief. And the death of a child of any age from any cause is always traumatic for the parents.”
Grief is an uncomfortable subject in our society, and this is often true for counselors as well. Traumatic grief, because of the overwhelming intensity, is even harder to witness. So why do I invite it in? Because I am “in the club.” I have walked the path of traumatic grief. I know that emptiness and the intensity. And I have made it through to the other side.
I went back to school to become a counselor…for you. I know the pain, and I am not afraid of it. I welcome it. You are not alone.
In therapy, my clients report being able to make sense of the crazy emotions inside of them and learn to create compassion for themselves. They also report learning how to draw others to them, reducing their loneliness. They learn how to hold both the love and the pain of loss, and create meaning out of their loved one’s lives, as well as their deaths.
If you need someone who has “been there” to be with you in this journey from loss to life, just click on the button below.
Email: Melanie@FeatherWingCounseling.com
Call: 832-224-6116
Text: 832-224-6116
